
BEAR PHILLIPS | The Feminist Love Coach
Embrace Pleasure as a Portal to Healing
Discover a life of uninhibited joy, where communication and consent form the foundation for transformative sexual exploration.
UNEARTH YOUR DESIRES & LIVE WITHOUT SHAME
I think of myself as a Pleasure Activist…
I’m also proudly sex-positive, kinky and queer. It took me a long time to work out how all the pieces fell into place for me, but I was lucky enough to have some amazing guides along the way.
I believe it is possible to live a life without shame, filled with pleasure and desire. It requires courage and integrity, but it is possible.
Communication and consent are the foundations of the work I offer.
Embracing your sexual self can lead to profound healing and a vibrant, pleasure-filled life.

“I feel more grounded, secure and whole because of this process with you.“
I can help you
Are you…
> Wanting to learn to connect with your body and experience physical and sexual pleasure?
> Struggling with performance anxiety or how to stay present with your partner(s)?
> Wanting to experience more joy in your life, but don’t know how?
> Wanting to learn how to ask for your wants, needs and desires (or simply know what they might be)?
> Confused by, or want to understand the complexities and nuances of consent?
> Curious to learn about the power of Sacred-Sex or Conscious Kink?
> Navigating the intimidating and confusing worlds of kink and BDSM?
> Wanting to have frank conversations about sexual health and sexual performance?
The place you are now…
> Struggling with performance anxiety and sexual dysfunction
> Feeling shame around your sexual desires
> Conflicted and confused about your sexuality and sexual preferences
> Unable to ask for your needs, wants and desires
> Uncertain about the ins-and-outs of consent and how to negotiate safe-play
The place you’ll get to…
> Able to enjoy intimacy, pleasure and connection in sexual relationships
> Releasing shame and underlying sexual trauma
> Celebrating your sexual self and finding in it a source of ongoing pleasure and joy
> Confident and assured in your communications
> A deep understanding of consent and power dynamics
Ways to work with me:
I offer personalised coaching sessions – online or at my Brighton studio – that address everything from practical guidance to deep emotional healing. Every session is tailored to your needs in a nonjudgmental and compassionate space.
Join my occasional workshops on subjects like embodied consent, pleasure, touch, and conscious kink. I also collaborate with inspiring facilitators from my travels. Follow me on social media for the latest updates.
Read my blog on Substack and follow my YouTube Channel: DATING+DESIRE.
Discover my memoir, FEMINISM WILL MAKE A MAN OUT OF YOU! – a manifesto, memoir, and self-help guide exploring healing, sexual freedom, and personal liberation.
I can help you with:
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“I don’t think I could have got there alone – some journeys need a guide!”
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