“DADDY!” The Healing Power of Big/little Play: An Anthology
On the transformative potential of inner-child work, role-play and conscious kink.
Edited by @Bear Phillips and @Ellie Rose.
The experience of Big/little play is unparalleled in its uniqueness – a form of kink role-play where consenting adults engage in nurturing, care-based dynamics that challenge conventional notions of power, gender, and sexuality.
Through stories, theory, and reflections from conscious kink practitioners, therapists, creatives and academic researchers, “DADDY!” reveals how this dynamic can offer not only erotic charge but profound opportunities for emotional intimacy, reparenting and healing.
In a world where many of our deepest wounds are relational, this book explores how a greater understanding of the developmental dynamics at play could offer healing through presence, awareness and conscious kink.
*How to Have a-RANT for Rupture & Repair*
How to Have a-RANT for Rupture & Repair, is a simple yet transformative framework for navigating difficult conversations. Because conflict is unavoidable. It’s what happens next that matters most!
How to Have a-RANT provides a practical roadmap for navigating one of life’s most challenging experiences: how to give and receive feedback – especially when a boundary has been crossed or an agreement broken. What we learn is that there is more intimacy and connection on the other side when we can stay with each other through the discomfort of these difficult moments.
In this accessible guide, trauma-informed intimacy coach Bear Phillips introduces a simple, practical, yet transformative structure for navigating the conversations we fear most. Because repair is a skill – one that can be learnt, and one that can transform our lives. Blending psychology, embodiment practices, and real-world lived experience, this guide will help you turn moments of rupture into opportunities for deeper trust, stronger relationships, and lasting intimacy.
This book not only teaches the fundamentals of rupture and repair, but provides the tools to take this learning into our own communities, with workshop notes and further resources.
Conflict is unavoidable. It’s what happens next that matters most.
[ Intended as a community resource, this book covers both the content and how to deliver the workshop it’s based on. The book is available free (see link below) or at cost price when purchased through Amazon as a Kindle eBook or paperback. ]
*Sex Meets Life*
What happens to your sex life when ‘life’ inevitably happens?
Read my chapter “Losing My Religion (to Find My Divinity)”, in this extraordinary book edited by Anna Sansom, with a Foreword by Meg-John Barker.
What happens to your sex life when ‘life’ inevitably happens?
If you’ve ever found your sex life going through a time of unexpected shift, transformation, or pause, you are not alone.
In this daring anthology, you’ll find candid stories about the impact of ageing, illness, relationship changes, exploring gender, menopause, becoming a caregiver, sexual awakenings, and more.
From reclaiming desire to redefining intimacy, each story offers a raw, honest look at the challenges – and the celebrations – that can emerge when our sex lives come face-to-face with ‘life’.
*Feminism Will Make A Man Out of You!* Merchandise
A number of slogans from the book, custom printed on a variety of t-shirts, mugs and cotton tote bags.
Stay in Touch!
Join my Substack for extracts from my forthcoming book Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You!, related musings, previews and events.
For occasional newsletters and updates only.
