Hi! I’m BEAR
Are you looking for healing, intimacy and pleasure – without guilt or shame?
I help people heal from trauma and navigate love, dating, sex, polyamory and kink (masculinity too)!
RECLAIM PLEASURE. RESTORE TRUST.
Hi! I’m Bear!
I am an Intimacy and Relationship Coach specialising in embodiment, pleasure, and trauma-informed healing. I support people of all genders, orientations, and relationship styles — including singles, couples, and polycules — to access deeper intimacy, connection, and freedom.
I bring an understanding of the ways misogyny and patriarchy have affected all of us, be it in different ways, impacted our ability to have the authentic and genuinely loving relationships we deserve.
I also work with disabled clients to explore pleasure in ways that feel safe, empowering, and embodied.
More connection, more pleasure, more joy! It’s all possible!
“What you do has been life-changing for me. Absolutely life-changing…!”
What are you struggling with?
Whatever your challenges with pleasure, intimacy, or relationships — I’m here to help you create the life you want and deserve.
Pleasure
Struggling with performance anxiety, disconnection from your body, or asking for what you want? Curious about consent, kink, or exploring your desires?
Relationships
Facing difficulties in your relationship(s)? Exploring non-monogamy or alternative models? Dealing with jealousy, unmet needs, or constant anxiety?
Intimacy
Held back by fear, low self-esteem, or limiting beliefs? Want to feel confident, empowered, and respectful in connection — without seduction techniques?
I CAN HELP…
COACHING (Talk therapy)
For singles, couples, and polycules navigating intimacy, non-monogamy, and masculinity. Tailored sessions that meet you where you are.
BODYWORK (Touch Therapy)
Trauma-informed bodywork from safe touch to sensual play and conscious kink. Focused on consent, nervous system regulation, and healing through pleasure.
Writing & Activism
Including my book, FEMINISM WILL MAKE A MAN OUT OF YOU! (due 2026) – a personal and political journey exploring masculinity, patriarchy, and healing in sex and relationships.
About me
With many years in therapy and personal growth, I trained as a psychotherapist with Spectrumtherapy in 2015, and more recently completed the year-long professional training in Compassionate Inquiry, with Gabor Maté (2024).
This work transformed my life — and now it’s my purpose to help others do the same. I create safe, trauma-informed spaces where healing and transformation are possible, in-person or online.
What my Clients say
“The learning and the shifts that are taking place in me are seismic. What you do has been absolutely life-changing for me. Absolutely life-changing!”
— Hannah
“All of MY experiences with you have been completely freeing and completely life-changing for me… It’s difficult to put into words…”
— Anon
“I think that that experience with you was in fact true intimacy. It’s perhaps the greatest gift you could possibly have given me!”
— Aggie
“Each time we have a session I feel met in ways I’ve never been met before… I am meeting and integrating parts of myself I had banished. I feel more grounded, secure and whole because of this process.”
— Anon
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I offer Presence. Love. Acceptance.
Have questions or want to explore how I can support you?